Tuesday, October 5, 2010

Relationships...A blessing or a curse?

A beautiful relationship is a thing to cherish. You get into a relationship to make your life better and happy. But, this doesn’t happen for everyone in the world. Think of a friend whose boyfriend or girlfriend is really jealous. It may seem like your friend’s partner really cares about them but actually jealousy and controlling behavior are not signs of affection. Love involves respect and trust.


Abusive relationship statistics are not always exact statistics because most people never report their sufferings because they consider it as a private affair. This gives the relationship ample opportunity to grow worse each day that the person remains silent.


I know a lot of people that have been victims of an abusive relationship. Whether it’s physical or verbal it’s still abuse. They try to hide it but over time it becomes more and more noticeable. An abusive relationship kills the personality of those involved in it, which leads to other abusive relationships. It brings about many negative characteristics in a person, like self-pity, grave dependability, lack of respect and trust, and fear and insecurity.


According to the Liz Claiborne Inc. study conducted by Teenage Research Unlimited; Technology & Teen Dating Abuse Survey, 2005 73% of teenagers say that if they happened to be involved in an abusive relationship, that they would ask a friend for help. But only 33% who have been in or known about an abusive relationship said they haven’t told anyone about it. Nearly 80% of girls who have been physically abused in their intimate relationships continue to date their abuser.


According to the City of New York, Teen Relationship Abuse Fact Sheet, March 1998, of women between the ages 15-19 murdered each year, 30% are killed by their husband or boyfriend.


Dating abuse via technology is also a serious problem. 30% say they are text messaged 10, 20, and 30 times an hour by a partner inquiring where they are, what they’re doing, or who they’re with. 24% communicated with their partner via cellphone or texting HOURLY between midnight and 5:00am. (Liz Claiborne Inc. study conducted by Teenage Research Unlimited; Technology & Teen Dating Abuse Survey, 2007)


It’s sad that some people actually have to deal with this every day. You could only imagine what the affect could be from such trauma.

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